Hi Sarah! I am thinking about your post... it takes time to adjust to any change in our lifestyles, like getting married, having a baby, choosing to homeschool. Before my children were K age, we would always go "out" to get errands or activities done in the morning so they would have the afternoon time for naps or rest time. However, since I began homeschooling in K with my oldest, we have had to change that routine. We have a few basic chores in the morning around the house, but we have to begin school in the morning. With MFW K we could be finished with our school work by lunch time and then I could do lots of other things in the afternoon. Now that my children are both doing CtG and are in 2nd and 4th grade we don't complete our work until the afternoon, but we are still involved in other activities after school and I keep our Fridays light and available for co-ops, 4H meetings, other homeschool group activities, or field trips. Sometimes we just use Friday to catch up on things.sarah wrote:Hello all,
We are doing MFW K. I am new to HSing and my DS is my only child (for now). We are enjoying the program very much and overall it has been going well. I feel that the phonics are right on for my son and I love that the program is integrated, well rounded, and has helped me feel like I really can do this. It has been fun and my son has learned a lot.
The problem is that I just feel behind. We began in September. According to our hundreds chart, we have only done around 38 days of school (plus the creation unit at the beginning which we did over 7 days). It's hard for me not to feel the pressure of "Will we get done with K on time?" I feel like the "school year" is technically half over so we should have around 60 days in and be half way through the program. Right? We're in NC so there are not any actual state requirements for this age, but I feel slack. And I do want to finish K completely before starting first. And I am eager to keep steady progress so my son keeps learning the phonics.
We have been fairly faithful to do school, though we do Classical Conversations on Mondays, so on that day we sometimes do not do our MFW stuff because that is already a full day for a five year old I feel like. Just FYI- we are happy with Classical Conversations (we use it more for our co-op and enrichment than our main curriculum). My son takes a PE and art class through the local HS group on Tuesday. He really enjoys these and I feel that they truly are worthwhile. Then it seems that we need a day a week during most weeks to do errands, library, groceries, appointments, visit family, play with friends, field trips. On top of that we have swimming and T ball on some evenings. I mean we only spend about 90 minutes on MFW K (which I know is typical and adequate), but I have driven myself and my child crazy a couple of times by trying to push MFW in after being gone most of they day and it's just not worth it. My husband really prefers me to go out in the mornings rather than afternoons and evenings. I try really hard to make this "errand" day Tuesday (after the art and PE class) so we have at least three days of MFW in a row each week. So typically there would be two days a week that MFW might not happen.
Just being realistic and honest about how my life works despite the ideal. I get that one day is a "light day" so I use that for one of the days above (my son goes outside most days anyhow and we just read our literature story and do that craft with day 5). I mean it's not like my son isn't doing anything productive on the days we don't do MFW obviously.... so part of me feels like we're okay.... BUT I know we're technically behind and I'm scared that if I can't keep on track in K then I'll never make it in older grades. I know I shouldn't worry about the future, but I really feel like if I can't do it at this age then I'm doomed. I mean for the most part I enjoy the pace of our life and the things we're involved in, I just worry that the actual "meat" of schooling (the three Rs) gets pushed to the back burner and my son will get behind in core subjects and K. Just trying to figure out how veteran HSers make it work.
My husband and I have discussed HSing year round anyhow because it seems to make the most sense for our family's routine, thus I am already thinking K may go into the coming summer but I would still like to have the option for it NOT to. Am I messing up by not doing 5 consecutive days? Thoughts?
I know you may not like my answer, but for me I have to start school work in the morning and schedule my days so that we can get through our curriculum and get the work done. We count the number of days of instruction in my state so we have school Mon-Fri each day so that we can have a break during the summer. I am sure that your co-op and CC are both good things to be involved in, but maybe you only really have time for one day of being out of the house or maybe you can do school work before you go to co-op or with K lessons, you might even be able to do two days worth of work in one day so that you can "catch up" somewhat.
Don't beat yourself up about it! Now that you see where you are and where you want to go, maybe you can just make a plan and try doing things a little differently so that you can not feel bad about it. The K year is a good year to adjust to some of these things and make your son's education a high priority. It sounds like you already have this in your heart and you are a good mom, you just might need to make some tweaks in how you are going about getting it all done. Or make choices on how much time you have realistically for other outside activities. We do several hours of school work during the day and still have time for ballet, children's choir, church activities, music lessons, etc.
I hope something that I've written helps!