jasntas wrote:This is so true. With most hs'ers I know, this is the attitude. The amazing thing is that here on this board I don't feel that pressure.
I agree. I don't feel the pressure on this board either. It is really nice to not feel it.
it's that Charlotte Mason philosophy influence
I just feel like babbling a bit. only parts of this will make sense as it is more bullet point than long essay.
There's a balance in it in any approach. One of the common things to hear from homeschoolers is this idea of "my 6 year old is working at grade level such and such in math, but grade level blah blah in language arts". I was told as a newbie homeschooling teacher that it was ok to have it out balance like that because we homeschool and can individualize instruction. It didn't really make sense then and it still doesn't. So I don't like to suggest that route.
If they have learned one skill a little early (such as reading), then make sure the other skills (handwriting, composition, etc) are being worked on. But individual instruction doesn't mean "work them above age and stage of learning". it means see the child, not the grade level. See the child, not the clock. See the child, not the calendar. See the long term picture - not the reading level.
I like to speak in analogies and comparisons to help. If you had an infant who learned to walk at 10 months (early side of that skill), it didn't mean all of their skills were advanced. They were still 10 months old. No need to push them. Keep teaching and keep going.
When they outgrow sitting in a booster seat, it doesn't mean they are ready to drive. Too often, when we, as well intentioned homeschoolers, try to place a child based on reading level as the primary placement tool, we are taking them from the booster seat to the driver seat before their time. So, lots of us chatter boxes over here like to say it's ok to not push too soon as it doesn't get you where you need to be.
I don't know if any of you remember how the pediatrician's office staff can tell a child's birth order based on mom's interview? Have y'all heard that one? Doctor interviews mom of first child "Tell me about your child" Mom answers "well, she's here and here on this skill chart, and I'm worried about this because she mastered crawling at 6 months, but didn't feed herself a cheerio with a tripod style grasp". The doctor just smiles and says "it's ok. That's normal. She's 6 months old."
By 3 or later child the same doctor and same mom "tell me about this child"
Well, doctor, it was really cute, she crawled over to her sisters and grabbed the cheerios off the plate and mushed it in her face. I wasn't quick enough to get the camera, but it was fun watching them laugh and play. I'm a little worried that she is still not tolerating being in the car while we drive. She just sounds miserable. I don't think it is colic and it's not going away."
(uh, yes, that was me and my kids and doctor)
and so, we learn not to pressure our children while beefing up age appropriate academics. No pressure to perform can really change when they learn to crawl, walk, read, write, go to college. Young children need to learn skill sets and when we try to keep things in balance, it is easier on everyone involved, and has excellent long term results. And since it is excellent long term results that are the end point, well, why pressure them to be "grade levels" ahead when they are only single digit age?
well, I need another banana today to keep my body in balance and focused and have some longer term results.
but that's some of the reason behind many of us not wanting to pressure for pushing - we don't want skills out of balance, or moms stressed, or skills missed. Homeschooling works. reading level shouldn't be the first thing to look at when deciding levels of programs. young children can learn new skills (cooking, cleaning, serving others) as "educational time" even if they are ahead in abstract symbols of reading and math. And chatter boxes like me don't want moms to miss that part of this stage of learning. We're rather you enjoy the fun and laughter of watching them play and grow, instead of stressing that the cheerio wasn't picked up in the "right" grasp.