momem3 wrote:She despises sounding words out and does ok-ish when we do the word list and I just tell her the words and then ask her to point to "dot" or whatever. ...... She doesn't like the songs, she refuses to say the sounds of words (even though she knows almost all of the ones we do when I do the sound and she just has to point to the letter), she is just not auditory.
I could have written this post about my current 5yo.
My primary goal for K is for the child to develop good school habits. I want to work on attentiveness, first time obedience, and all the other habits that I want in place for future years. Reading is a secondary goal and I have had K'ers who have learned to read during their K year and K'ers who have not learned to read. My K'ers who developed good habits (usually because I made it a priority) even if they did not learn to read during their K year have been a joy to continue hsing. My K'ers who have not developed good habits, even if they did learn to read during their K year, were a constant struggle throughout their hsing years.
With my current 5yo, who is doing almost the exact same behaviors as your, I have decided that she is capable but just unwilling to cooperate with doing MFW K. Some things I could easily change. Instead of singing the songs, we could review the material with flashcards. So we made that adjustment. Once she realized that she is going to review the materials regardless of her attitude, she decided that singing the songs was preferred to flashcards. Now she is willing to sing the songs and does it with a pretty good attitude.
Blending was a stumbling block for her as well. You can't rush a child through blending so I felt some of her behaviors was due to frustration with the skill of blending. I stopped moving forward with the curriculum and spent several weeks focusing on blending. She needed a little extra time developing this skill and now we are moving forward with the curriculum with a better attitude.
I guess my point is that I just didn't immediately think that her issues were related to a conflict in learning style and MFW K.
As a contrast, my current 8yo did not learn to blend or read during his K year. He had some significant speech motor issues and was doing intense speech therapy work during that year. Each time we tried to work on blending , his speech would revert back to the patterns that he was working so hard to overcome. So as a 5yo, he was willing but unable to move forward with reading. We could work on developing good habit; we just were not able to work on phonics. He needed time to work on other issues before working on reading.
Graduated ds '08 & dd '09
Homeschooling ds 11 & dd 8 using RtR
completed: MFW 1, ADV, ECC & CtG.