salmy wrote:We are using MFW -K for our almost 5 year old DD.
We would not have sent her to K this year as she is young .
Then she's not ready for homeschool academics either, in my limited opinion. ((hug))
Put the books down for a while. She's not ready for school time. That's ok. You can try again in a few months.
Play games with her for now and use the time as a learning experience to develop your relationship with each other. Your child is young and the formal academics can wait. When she is ready for it, you might still have to "do school" in a play/game manner.
Many 5 year olds (and your daughter is not yet 5 years old) still don't like to do school. but they will play a game with you. MFW K has a lot of activities that lend themselves to being done in a game style because that's how we have to do a lot of it with our youngest.
Totally agreeing with sarajoy
sarajoy wrote:If hsing is what you want to do, don't give it up. Slow down if you need to, spend "school time" doing somethings she likes, such as crafts or games or even playing dolls, she's young, so enjoy her and find out what makes her work. I'm discovering that the more I understand how my kids are different, and unique the better I can mother and teach them.
I'd be happy to share some of the silly adventures that we have with teaching a child who has to do kind of school but still needs a ton of playtime.
salmy wrote:Let me clarify. We would not have sent her to public school only because she is not mature socially. She has been ready for learning for a while. The issue is that she does not want to cooperate with me!
Our children are always ready for learning from very early ages. Young toddlers love to learn. 2 year old, 3 year old, and 4 year old love to learn --- What's that? Why? Why? Why??? or Read this to me, please?
But it is a big difference from "wanting to learn" to "being ready for school". It is not just the social aspect that she is not ready for. Most 4 year old are not ready for formal methods of academics. So even though she wants to learn, it will have to wait for more readiness to develop in all developmental domains. that's ok. Even my youngest child with autism loved to learn about everything when she was 4. She was even starting to recognize letters, shapes, sounds, words. She was not ready for even home based formal instruction. She had to learn other things first. The outdoors is a great classroom. Chore time together with mom is a great time of learning.
You mentioned also that she has a hard time following instructions. That is a skill that both of you can work on together in everyday life and games. Start with simple instructions to follow in everyday tasks. Help her to follow your instructions. make sure you are giving very clear instructions to your 4 year old. many children need to have longer instructions broken into small bites and some children need help to understand tiny differences in instructions. Make sure they understand the instructions and help them to do it when needed.
Learning to be able to follow oral instructions is part of learning how to obey. Some kids need more help to be able to understand instructions to be able to follow them. I say that because I have kids who struggle with understanding language without lots of help.
Consider using the preschool program this year that focuses on following simple instructions. You have the time on your side to work on the character stuff and learning from each other how to get along and all of that. If God has called you, HE is faithful to see it done.