Rachel,rachel wrote:OK, I am going to be honest here. I had my daughter in a 2 day a week program last year for kindergarten. She is very social and I like my alone time so it worked out well.
I have LOVED so many things about MFW. She likes it too. But, she misses her friends from her kindergarten. The days in between the teacher sent her home with her school work so I did school with her monday wednesday friday. I still got that time with her without being solely responsible for her every academic and social need.
The drive is an hour one way and I have 3 younger children that had to go to mother's day out so that she could go there. So, we are also talking about a lot of money and gas. But, I could do a few hours of counseling a week to pay for it all. That would be adding on another responsibility but there would also be a trade off.
Now, I know this is getting long but please hang in here with me. I am feeling isolated too. And, I feel like if we do anything to be social it just means more work- and more responsibility.
Frankly, I look at the proverbial woman and see that she did not do it all but in fact had help and multiple interests in her life. Sure, she probably did not do it all at once, BUT, my point is, how do you achieve the balance of being a part of community and not doing it ALL and having relationships when you school, take care of your home ....... my husband is also a pastor and although he is helpful in ways and our church is very good to me too, I just feel like I am carrying too much responsibility alone.
I know God is there to help. I know to go to Him. What I need is some practical advice on why it is Godly or being a good role model even to be such a lone ranger. I am not even seeing that that is necessarily biblical. Does anyone have any thoughts about this? THANK YOU!!
using MFW1 with daughter and 3 younger sons....
I experience a very different kind of isolation than you are describing. My youngest child is autistic. It’s hard to go anywhere or do anything. We have few friends who visit. So, I know what it is like to not be able to be the social butterfly that I would like to be (why do you think I’m at this computer all the time).
We go through different seasons in our lives. But I don’t think we are supposed to be lone rangers at all. It is a matter of seasons and some creative thinking in a new version of your life’s roles.
Let me make sure I understand something. Are you asking for ideas other than putting oldest back in a group school setting to meet your fellowship needs as well as ideas for still being a family of ministry for this particular season in your life?
Here’s what worked for me at one season in my life for fellowship.
*go to a park and hang out with other people. It doesn’t have to be a big responsibility and you can meet all kinds of people.
* join a non-academic home school co-op. Around here we have field trips, mom’s meetings in the evenings once a month. The responsibility was shared, but not equally. Those with older children were able to do more things. Those with preschoolers --- did smaller stuff or just participated.
*call up a friend and invite her over. Again -- keep it simple. Crackers and water for snack is not much responsibility.
I wonder if you have things like that where you live ---- where it can be things that you are the one who is in the season to be the “less in leadership” role and just more in “active participant” role.
David Hazell gives a workshop talk where he gives ideas about being a family of ministry. Maybe some ideas in there can help you to think about options that apply to you.