areed071509 wrote:My daughter (7) finished K and 1st grade in public school. This year we decided it'd be best to homeschool. She was so excited all summer. The excitement wore off after the first week.
She has no interest in what we're learning and hardly puts forth any effort when it comes to thinking. I basically spoon feed her through the lessons when it comes to anything that involves reading. Maybe she doesn't understand what she reads or what is read to her but it seems more to me like she isn't listening. I admit, I'm new to this and maybe the problem is me. I always envisioned making school fun for her but clearly that's not the case. She tells me she has no imagination (what?!) and tells her dad that school is harder this year and there's a lot of work. 2 weeks down and we're both frustrated. How do I fix this?
<hugs> to you on this transition. I brought one child home in 10th grade and one in 3rd. There is a learning curve for everyone, including us parents who were public schooled.
In some ways, "real learning" is probably harder than what she's been doing in school. Spoon feeding is probably what she's used to, and what she feels successful at. It may take some modeling from you before she starts to see learning in a new way.
I'm wondering if you're using Adventures? If so, there are lots of activities scheduled for you, but often moms set aside activities when kids drag their feet with the pencilwork types of things. Instead, I encourage moms to realize that kids actually learn by doing activities, and in the younger years, it's probably best to skip the reading & writing if necessary, because the activities will likely be remembered best.
Gradually you can add more reading and pencil work, maybe starting with one thing. My son had a "pencil allergy" and my one pencil requirement wqs the Bible verse, but he could spread it over the week (yes, it was lame to take a week to write a sentence or two, but he was writing college papers by 11th grade). We also experimented with puppet narration and marker board summaries (use digital photos if you want records). Some moms act as scribes for younger kids. My son liked "writing" on the computer from a young age. I tried to give my son the perspective that homeschooling gives us lots of options, but not learning at all isn't one of them.
I'm also wondering if your daughter is an active learner. If she can remember more when she's jumping around than when she's sitting still, then you might experiment a bit with where she sits, etc. This past week I was telling family stories of all the crazy ways my son did school. My exception was copywork, when I required a chair but I spent some time making sure the seating was at the correct height for comfortable arm movement, and we did arm stretches beforehand.
Hopefully you will receive lots more ideas, especially after we know a little more about what you're using and what kind of a learner you have. Blessings as you get to know new sides of your little learner.
Thank you for your reply. I can agree with everything you said. We are using Adventures in US History. And yes, as I interview her on how things were done at school, she says the teacher would tell her the answers when she said she didn't know - which was probably a lot since her grades were good at public school but she doesn't put the effort in at home and thinks the work is terribly hard. She does fidget quite a lot while writing and reading so I'm going to assume that yes she is an active learner.
Perhaps we can do school while scrubbing the bathroom together?
Heehee, please post if that succeeds!
Some of the things my son did to keep moving while he learned in the elementary years:
- balanced on a giant gym ball (some public schools are using these now)
- hung from a chinup bar in the doorway
- rolled himself and his cat up like mummies
- flopped over the piano bench
- rolled about on the computer chair
- just generally moved about, using a clipboard for any papers he needed
It's easy to test whether this works. Just compare narration while moving to narration while sitting still. In my son's case, he could narrate just fine while moving, but told me when sitting that he couldn't remember anything because he was concentrating on sitting still. We did, however, find that he couldn't do anything noisy and listen well.
And again, just focusing on the activities this year will help, too. Somehow, we start out life by learning with our bodies, and it takes time to transition to learning through words.