My oldest son is almost 5.5 years old. We started K in December only to discover it was a little too early for him. So, I have backed off. We are still trying to do some type of "school" activity several days a week. Included in that, I am trying to include a lot of fine motor skill activities for him since he was having such a hard time with the writing. I have him doing lacing and cutting and play dough and other fine motor skill activities. I also have a lot of workbooks with pages with tracing and mazes and such. He does enjoy doing workbooks.
Here is the issue, he HATES to hold his pencil properly. I have a very hard time getting him to do it. He is awkward and I have a hard time getting his fingers positioned well. Then, he will inevitably move them before too long. He complains anytime I say he has to hold it properly (although, when I offer to just put it away, he says no). I bought him a pencil grip and that doesn't help much.
I think if he develops a habit of holding it wrong (and I do mean totally wrong), it will be really hard to change later. Am I off base in that? I'm at a loss here on what to do and when to "force" him to hold it correctly. Should I only make him when specifically working on this or even when doing "school" crafts and coloring on his own.
I'm getting discouraged and feeling like if I can't teach this basic thing, I may not be cut out for homeschooling. (Although, I know in my head, I must be able to do this or God wouldn't have called us to it.
) Anyway, back to the topic, any tips or insight on how to help him learn to hold his pencil?
Also, similar question, should I be teaching my 3 year olds to hold it properly when they color too? If so, any tips on a right handed mom teaching a left handed 3 year old boy? His sister is right handed, but he is clearly left handed. We noticed it even before he turned 2. I'm trying to teach him to hold it straight and not curved around like I used to see kids when I was in school.
Thank you!!! I really appreciate the wonderful posters here and how helpful you all have been to me thus far. Hopefully, sometime in the next few years, I will be much more acclimated and able to help others like me who have no clue!
I'm no expert, and I'm not going to tell you what to do (because I really don't know!). However, I have an 11 yr. old dd who totally holds her pencil wrong. She rests it on her 4th finger, rather than the 3rd. BUT her handwriting is beautiful, which makes it hard to argue with her. (I have actually caught myself holding the pencil "incorrectly" when scribbling my grocery lists.) When I see it during school time, I'll correct her. But, honestly, I'm not going to watch for every time she's holding a pencil. She likes to make her own little "books," so she writes a lot when I'm not around. I don't feel she's been damaged for life, but I have pointed out to her that if she ever writes for a long period her fingers might cramp up. My 9 yr. old dd (a lefty) also holds her pencil like her sister, and she too has beautiful penmanship. --I have no idea how I missed this when they were younger!
I am being more watchful with my younger ones. I'm trying to teach them "how" to hold their pencil, to slant their paper, and to write "under" the word they're writing (not to the side or on top, if that makes sense). My kindergartner sometimes struggles with remembering how to hold a pencil right, and she likes to use those pencil grips that look like this http://www.thewritingpenstore.com/TheMi ... 2pack.aspx
(Wow, there are a lot of grip options out there! I've never seen that website before. Maybe they'll have some better options for your son.)
So, I guess, all in all, catch it when they're young because it is really hard (maybe even pointless?) to change the habit when they're older. As far as how often and for which activities? That's a hard one, in my opinion, based on his age, and the fact that I'm right there learning with you (since I already blew it with some of my older ones, lol). It might be awkward now, but that might change in just a few months. I think it's great that you're doing all the tactile/motor skills activities though. That will help a lot. And, no, this doesn't mean you're not cut out for homeschooling. lol Believe me, I'm always wondering if I'm doing it "right" or if I'm going to ruin my kids for life.
It's hard when you don't have any adult children yet who've "made it." That's why I'm so thankful for message boards like this, and just the homeschooling community in general. Blessings to you on this incredible journey!
Tiffany, Mom to 9 (ages 16 mo. to 14 yrs; 5 girls and 4 boys)