cinmor wrote:My 3 y.o. daughter has been a bit behind on her talking/language comprehension. I had her do an early intervention program for toddlers. Took a break from that because of moving, but once we got here (Texas) I got her into the program last summer and she had MULTIPLE screenings. She was never officially "diagnosed" with anything, the closest thing being sensory integration issues (and frankly, I am glad she hasn't been labeled, and my husband and I actually have prayed and feel that there were things spoken over her or labeled on her that were unnecessary). We looked into more speech therapy with the school district, but she was not qualified as apparently their budget is SO tight that you have to have a serious disability in order to qualify.
She exhibits SOME behaviors that would make one think there were some autistic tendencies but not much.....tippy toe walking, extremely sensitive to loud noises (completely goes crazy, even when we were singing Happy Birthday to her at her party), still is somewhat behind in the language comprehension (although she is doing better). She's a WHIZ though at her letters, numbers, shapes, colors etc, and she can watch a movie like once and have the whole thing memorized!! She loves music and singing, she's always moving and jumping and has seriously NO fear. She does some of the arm flapping stuff too but more when she's just really excited or upset. She can draw circles, up and down lines, side to side lines, not really anywhere close to coloring inside the lines though.
So my feelings of guilt come from first of all I wonder if too much T.V. or something has contributed to this issue with her. Since I hs my oldest (adventures) I let her watch a show or two in the mornings, but then my husband will also let her watch a show in the evenings or whatever while we're making dinner. I want to work with her more on things (things like, the "wh" questions like what do we eat with? Where do we sleep? Where do we wear a shirt?), doing more art projects and working more on letters and coloring and fine motor skills. But in the mornings it seems like it's a battle with my oldest to even get STARTED, then to get the morning assignments DONE, and before we know it my youngest has been left to her own devices to play or watch TV until lunchtime then she has a nap!!!!
I'm just to a point where I really want to embrace this season I'm in as a homeschooling mama, as I believe this is the role God has given to me, but sometimes I just feel like my youngest is short changed. Just looking for input, advice, someone to tell me I haven't totally screwed her up!!! Bless you my fellow homeschool mamas!! (and dads)
I'd recommend a book called "Out of Sync Child" and its follow up "Out of Sync Child Has Fun". Dont' think of identifying a problem as a label.... it's like with me.... I have low iron count and therefore have something called anemia. So, with that "label" I know to go get some iron supplements. It's like that with our children. and besides that... once we have the name of it.. we can say that Jesus is the Name above even that name.
Children who are "out of sync" often need a sensory "diet". Now that doesn't mean new food items or running over to supplements... it's just a way of saying that they need something to help that part of their body work a little better...
Check out HeadsupNow.com
go to sensory pages and look at some of the books that Melinda has listed there. See if your library has some of those. If not, see about getting
here.. .it's not that competes with mfw, so I'm going to link to it
http://www.headsupnow.com/products-page ... fidgeting/
take a look through there. Melinda has a great workshop about incorporating sensory activities in home setting.
No - watching TV did not cause it. let go of that guilt. been there, done that....
you mentioned the constant motion.... I should mention my youngest was a "proprioceptive" seeker -- always moving, jumping, no fear, yet at the same time, aware of dangers. I never figured out exactly how she scaled the fridge at the old house. I mean... she had to go up the side from the counter, but .. how did she get the last part? She wanted the box of Corn Flakes, so she was motivated. (after that I moved the box to a shelf much lower). She was busy studying how to get down from the fridge that day. She needed both hands, so eventually put the bag (without box) of cereal in her mouth and climbed down to me. then she had her cereal, and I got her dressed......
a trampoline was nice. one of those exercise size one... a swing set in the back yard.... and she still dances a lot while watching the wiggles....
now, we ended up using some private preschools for her. But even so, she'd have to come home and be at home other times of day. then eventually she was home for kindy...
I have memories from when she was 1, middle gal was 4 and doing at home speech therapy, and oldest was 7? yeah, that sounds right on the numbers.... anyway.. I would start the school day with needs of the middle gal really. She did speech therapy in a clinic setting. The at home stuff with her was preschool and "clinic homework". She wasn't doing an off campus preschool. So oldest would help me play with her for all of that.
Then, oldest was ready for some big kiddo school work and because I had given middle gal some time 15-30minutes... she was ready to do her own thing. So, Peanut over there (the youngest) was a little thing back then and to put it mildly??????? she was in constant motion and miserable. So upside down she went in a sling or swing or high chair with an ice cube or mashed potatoes...
I know I started with the younger kiddos and then got oldest to do big kid stuff. After giving the little kiddos some one on one time, the youngest were ready to do something (toss mashed potatoes on her own face, or play with shortening on the kitchen floor (don't do that. it's hard to clean)) or watch some videos while I worked with oldest for 30 minutes or so. I know some people aren't fans of using tv... but once I realized that some shows were helping with speech goals, or that certain library videos were helping.... and my child liked it... well... it was what I needed to do.
ok, the shortening on the kitchen floor... I remember that. it was in 2006, so she was 4. LOL LOL. We had the shortening and they were ice skating. I thought.. get a mop and squeegee thingee and it'd clean. but one of them got flour and then,,, well.. then, the water.. and well..
Homeschooling is fun and messy and hard work. all of that was let you know.. it's going to be ok.
I sent you some ideas on speech development - specifically with preschool level materials in "reading comprehension" category on superduper inc.
I also want to give a plug for MFW's Pre K program. Those activity cards have lots of age appropriate language development and fine motor stuff.
and of course, I'd encourage you to have a listen to David Hazell's workshop on Occupying Preschoolers while teaching older children. http://www.mfwbooks.com/products/25/Workshops-on-CD/
It's encouraging to hear that even parents of children with regular needs face the same struggles we do.
Give plenty of visual clues on those WH questions. Model it ahead of time. Point to the picture of the person. Start slowly, build it more complicated as you go along.
Who and What are easier to learn, so start there.
and I know at least one child out there in my cyber friends who was a sensory not autism child. It took him longer to outgrow certain odd stuff, but with time it did. Same with my middle gal.
Do you need any kind of "speech goals" sheet or specifics to work on other than "wh questions?" If so, if you are a member of HSLDA, they rent something called the Brigance Inventories. You can use that as a way to check progress.
I've also used VORT Help Strands.