My guess would be hormones... they affect everyone differently. But she still needs to have self-control...ilovemy4kids wrote:My 7th grader used to be my stellar student.... Eager, always quick to get her work done..etc.... the past 6 months she has been totally different.
She is ALWAYS talking! She can't stay on a single task to save her life.... she distracts her brother... just ARGHH!!!! She turned 13 on Sunday. Anyone else been through this? My older grown girls didn't go through it like this..... I don't know what to do....I am at wits end......
Tonight she needed help with a math problem, it's a box and whisker plot.... I asked if she had re-read the lesson where it was learned... she said yes (with attitude), I told her we would go over the lesson together and figure it out, so I turn back to the right instruction area, and she states she already read it, and would I just help her.... it went on and on.... she ended up in tears, I ended up yelling. Bad mom points.
You might try something like, "Okay, honey. I'd be glad to help you, but you're showing me by your attitude (the way you answered my question and rolled your eyes) that you really don't want my help right now. Come find me when you're ready to speak respectfully to me and ready to accept my help."
Or, "Sweetheart, you are really demonstrating that you don't have self-control right now by just chattering on and distracting your brother. I'm going to ask you to go up to your room (or the office, or ...). When you're ready to work diligently, you may come back."
Maybe tell her she needs to pray and ask God to help her. I can remember having a bad attitude and talking a lot around 11-12-13 years old. But our hormones shouldn't control us. (And I REALLY wish my parents had tried to help me respond in a better way when I was that age, than me struggling with it now when it's harder to break old habits. PMS is real, but we need to still be controlled by the Spirit.)
Have her memorize Gal. 5:23 if she hasn't.