Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 2:05 am
Eve wrote:Hi ladies, do any of you deal with a child who usually detests drawing or coloring? This is odd for me as I am an artist, and I love to color or draw. So do my other two older children. So I have never had to face this challenge.
I guess my question is: Would it be a horrible thing, or would I be doing him a dis-service, if I drew, I let him trace, what if we cut out old pictures, or even scan in some ? Brainstorming... Eve
I've been giving some thought to your post. I had two thoughts for you to pray about.
The first thought is, I am also an artist and I have two dd's who love to draw. My youngest is my ds age 6 who was a very reluctant writer/drawer/colorer until I started using Drawing with Children.
I discovered that he was not confident to draw because he was comparing himself to me and his sisters and thought his stuff wasn't "good" because it didn't look like ours. After working, w/o sisters, with him and walking him through the steps, he saw that he could draw and it has helped with his confidence. Writing is still not his favorite thing to do but he'll do it. And now he will spontaneously draw and color. Not as much as sisters but more than in the past. My thought was perhaps he is feeling intimidated by all the talent in your home and perhaps not wanting to "compete" in an area that is not a strength for him.
I don't think this is his issue but the second thought I had is, does your son have any underlying fine motor issue ie. strength/coordination issue, that he needs help with? Boys in general have less fine motor ability early on than do same age girls. Perhaps there are some exercises you can do with him to build up hand strength as well as ability. My dd played with clay, pick up small things like beans and Cheerios, as well as put them into a jar using only her thumb and index finger as a way to build coordination. If he can easily trace w/o too much fatigue this is probably not the problem but I thought I would toss it out there.
Either way, I will pray for wisdom for you...