Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 9:53 pm
cryste cole wrote:Hello, you have many kids, I am just wondering how you do it all, as this will be my first year homeschooling. what grades are they, do you combine, what does the baby do in the meantime? :0) If you just post your schedule that would be greatly appreciated! LOL. On a real note...if you would just share how you make it all work would be great!
To answer your question on how we do it...ROUTINE ROUTINE ROUTINE. This will actually be our first full year homeschooling. I have a 6th dd, 3rd dd, K ds, PreK ds, and a 16 mo. old and 2 1/2 mo. old. To be honest, 10 yrs ago when we got married, my husband and I would have looked at a family like ours and thought it was completely insane. But the Lord knows what he is doing, and we are VERY happy and feel nothing but VERY blessed.
OK, more on your question.
The main answer would be that my husband helps out a whole whole bunch. He did not at first, and when our 4th child was 6 weeks old he left for Afghanistan for 16 months. But once he got home he was a different person (me too). When he is not at work, he is at work at home. He cleans some, cooks some, gives baths some nights, and is just a second set of hands for me. It's sooo nice. I believe in any larger family it almost has to be this way or the mom would completely lose it!!!
I also have MOTH which I do not follow to a T, but it has shown me how to make things all work. I've had a general daily routine hanging up on our fridge for a little over a year now. I think now I'm going to actually make a different one for each day of the week. One thing I do differently from MOTH is that I don't really schedule my babies. I feed them on demand, the littlest one sleeps whenever, and they just kind of hang out with us. I like to keep us all pretty much together during the day. I have to keep a close eye on my 6 and 3 yr olds, they are ALL boy. If the girls need peace and quiet I try to give it to them, but they have gotten pretty good at working in the midst of it all.
We all take a 2 hour break in the middle of the day. I do whatever needs done and a few things I want to do. The girls go to their room and read, sew, write letters home (we live away from both mine and my husband's families), and sometimes check their emails. The boys nap. On days when this doesn't happen EVERYONE gets exhausted.
Another thing I've done is put up chore lists. We don't change them around either. They've had the same chores for a couple years now, and they still have trouble remembering them. My boys only have a few simple ones, but I think the girls have 12 or 13. But they include cleaning their rooms, putting out their clothes for the next day...some really quick and simple ones...and a few more time consuming harder ones. I have Christine Field's book Life Skills and it helped me a lot with this. I am very picky and have had to learn to let some things get "kinda kid" done. Oh well, a cleared table is a cleared table, right?
We also don't do a bunch of extra stuff right now. Home, Grocery, Church mostly. But my oldest does play softball, and my other girl and oldest son play soccer.
I see you have 4 children. I would say that is really when I realized I needed to do something more than the average family does about these kinds of things. I just tried things out, if they didn't work, it was obvious and we would try something new. But like I said,this is our first full homeschooling year,so I might be asking you for help in a few months! hehehe. Just hang in there, it all comes together if you keep motivated and ask for God's help.