(((hugs)))kaiakai wrote:I am really excited about homeschooling (starting with MFWK in August). However, one of my pet peeves is when people say that they "can't" do something, and Miss K says this so much!! About stuff that she really *Could* do, or sometimes it's something that might require a little practice. It's usually accompanied by pouting, which makes it even worse. This issue coming up while homeschooling is probably one of my biggest fears and I'm hoping to find a good way of dealing with it or a way to eliminate it before we start school. I can quote Phil. 4:13 until I'm blue in the face, tell her that if she SAYS that she can't then there is a good chance that she can't (and encourage her to say that she CAN!)
I know when I say something like "can't", it is sometimes an expression of fear on my part. I can't get on a stage with a microphone and talk for an hour while teaching exercise! eek! my headset will fall off and I look like a dork on stage! (well duh.. actually I can get on stage)
Other times it's a legit recognition that I lack ability. I can't do high impact cardio exercise (due to knee and ankle and hip injuries). I can't do that routine with the cool arm things on the latest routine set. It's frustrating to say the least.
I wonder.... do you think it's just a 4 year old thing with her and she just might need you to say "I will help you learn".... or "You can't do it just yet... but you will be able to soon. Let's get you there." I might tend to avoid the scripture quote you mentioned as it's kinda abstract for that age in my limited opinion, others will disagree. I might with my kids say "I think we can do it together. and lean on God's help for it since his word gives us a promise."
If it's a pet peeve thing, make sure you ignore it as needed. Give her specific non pet peeve language to use in place of the phrase that bothers you. (that applies no matter what the phrase is. I can't... becomes either "I'm nervous about that!" or "I need your help to do it." give her specific things that she can say that are more accurate of what she is really saying.
When you get to the T T turtle lesson, maybe that will help her a bit more -- I don't quit; I persevere. It will become a little more concrete then and
remember, pick and glean the parts that apply and ignore those that don't.